This week’s question in the “Welcome to my World” blogging challenge is, “What was your first thought when you woke up this morning?”
Well, my first thought this morning was: “My husband is the best!”
You see, I’m not a morning person. My husband, on the other hand, is up at half past four every morning. No coffee needed. Just up and ready for the day. Me? I need my coffee.
So, every morning, after his hour of quiet-time with the Lord, he wakes me up with coffee. Or should I rather say, he brings me coffee. The waking up part does not necessarily happen at the same time.
This morning, as I finally opened my eyes, there was, as always, a mug of coffee on my bedside table. What made it so special though, was the lid that he had placed over the mug to keep it warm for when I eventually drag myself from dreamland. He must have noticed that, this morning, it was particularly hard for me to get up, and he wanted me to have a warm coffee when I do.
It might seem like a small, insignificant gesture to some, but to me it meant a lot.
His love-language is acts of service, so, first of all it was once again a reminder of his love for me. Secondly, it showed how much respect he had for me and how he accepted me for who I am. In this case, not a morning person like he is.
I am truly blessed to be married to this man. God has answered a whole lot of my prayers by making him a part of my life. No marriage is a garden of roses all the time and, believe me, ours is no exception. But, what I have learned in our sixteen years together, is that you need to pray for your marriage. All. The. Time. It is a God ordained institution and therefore the devil is out to destroy it.
Of course there are exceptions. I do not believe that it is God’s will for any of his children to be in an abusive or toxic relationship. If you find yourself in such a relationship you do not have to stay in it. Please seek help.
Sometimes two people are simply not compatible. The important thing is to determine God’s will for your situation. He knows the plans He has for you. (Jer. 29:11)
What God wants, is Godly, holy marriages.
Think about these words:
Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.– Mal 2:15 ESV
Love is not an emotion. It’s a choice. It’s work. Once the butterflies of being in love is gone, you need to work hard at being a good partner – and in being a good team player when it comes to raising the Godly offspring.
I thank God for giving me a good partner and I pray that I will be the wife he deserves.